ARTICLE INDEX

& Brief Descriptions

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WELCOME is a brief bio and some details about my practice.

SAME SIDE is about Same Side Solutioning, where I describe a process that couples, partners, colleagues, friends, family etc. can use for resolving problems or conflicts with a process that helps any two people cooperate better and remain calmer and friendlier on their way to negotiating win/win solutions.  The two articles that follow this one are also about relationships.  These three articles overlap quite a bit and reinforce many of the principles that I consider key to building and maintaining good, satisfying, and lasting relationships. 

GOOD WILL:  My initial name for Easing Conflict and Enhancing Good Will, Difficult Relationship Solutions  was "Coping with Difficult People," but I decided that was a bad name for an article somebody's partner or boss might find them reading. If I gave a talk on "Half of Everything I Know That's Worth Knowing," I'd base much of it on the principles behind these first three articles. GOOD WILL describes strategies for upgrading relationships unilaterally when you don't like what's going on and you're willing to change your approach instead of wasting further time wishing that the other person would change first. It encourages rising above our "lizard brain" lesser inclinations in order to inspire a better deal for ourselves and others when things get difficult - as they so often do.

MARRIAGE TIPS is a collection of my own and others' observations and advice about the amazing phenomenon called marriage. Entered by two generally ill-prepared individuals, there is nothing like marriage to tempt us into the dark realms of our worst attitudes and behaviors. That's the bad news. The good news is that there is also nothing like marriage to challenge us to understand ourselves and each other better and to grow up emotionally and spiritually. This article is a collection of helpful hints.

EFT & EMDR describes two relatively new and revolutionary therapeutic tools.  Emotional Freedom Technique, EFT, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, EMDR, both provide  ways to achieve freedom from a range of emotional states that are unpleasant to experience, difficult to avoid or escape, and negative in their impact on self-esteem and on behavior.  Both are effective for bridging that challenging gap between good intentions and productive behaviors. Once learned, the techniques of EFT for self-soothing and self-control can be used effectively by most people on their own.  EMDR is more often used with a trained counselor in the office.  Both techniques facilitate lasting change 

COACHING describes the relatively new opportunity for clients to utilize periodic telephone discussions with a psychologist "coach" in order to move more quickly and more certainly toward key goals. It's easy to spend far too much time attending to "urgent but unimportant" demands while chronically neglecting more highly valued goals and dreams that have lingered for months or years in that Neverland called Someday. Through regular support and accountability, coaching helps and even compels people to get on and to remain on track toward the things that matter too much to ignore any longer. Counseling and psychotherapy help people move "out of the pits." Coaching helps them move to higher levels of personal and professional success.  Telephone coaching is available from the convenience of your home or office.